Wednesday, February 22, 2017

All About the Dog Who Came to Stay

A year and a half ago, I wrote a blog about fostering dogs, ending, of course, with Thunder, who had at that point been around for a tumultuous six months.  In the subsequent year and a half, he resolutely refused to be adopted by anyone.  And I refused to adopt him.  We seemed to mutually agree that we belonged to each other, but nothing was official.


As we've been moving over the past couple weeks, we've talked about how to transition Thunder to a new home (with a bigger yard and less stairs!), and how to change our lives so that we could still take care of his needs with a longer work commute for us both.  He had been slowing down lately, had arthritis, and couldn't do the stairs to the basement anymore.  But with the painkillers he was now on, he was seeming to become sweeter and more tolerant (well, for him).  He still loved going on walks, wanted to be nearby, and wanted lots and lots of petting.  I hadn't given up on him in the over two years he'd been around (in spite of his innate ability to be a jerk when he wanted), and I wasn't going to start now.

In my blog, I talked about how I liked fostering because I didn't have to deal with the death of a pet.

Well, that's no longer true.

My temperamental, lovable, fuzzy jerk passed away early Saturday morning, after a late night trip to the emergency vet clinic Friday night.

We'd gone for our usual walk that morning, but when Mark got home around 3:30 Thunder didn't get up.  He still didn't get up when I got home at 5:30, except briefly.  We thought he just wasn't feeling good, so left to take another load over to the new house.  When I came home later, he seemed even worse and was barely responding to anything I did, so I called the emergency clinic and took him in (with some help, since I had taken NyQuill and couldn't carry a 70 pound dog down the stairs anyway).

The vet there told me that he was severely anemic, had fluid in his stomach from bleeding internally, and that his blood pressure had been too low to register.  He thought he saw a mass in his stomach, which was probably a tumor.  I got to say goodnight to him, then left him there for monitoring.

In the morning, I got a call from Stray Rescue telling me that he had stopped breathing at 3:30 that morning while the vets were trying to give him a transfusion.  He'd had cancer that no one knew about.

I spent the next three hours crying non-stop while trying to pack.

He wasn't officially my dog, but he'd all but chosen me nearly two and a half years ago when Stray Rescue first decided to have me meet a dog "who didn't really like anyone."  Thirty seconds after they brought him in the room, he was rolling in my lap.  We've pretty much been together ever since, through heartworm treatment and failed trial adoptions and him eating an entire hambone and being the laziest dog known to man.  We've snuggled, been pissed at each other, and eventually figured each other out.


I loved the jerk.  He was my jerk.  He was my snuggle buddy, my shadow, and my big cowardly baby.

I miss him.  I miss his goofy face, and the way his butt would sway when you scratched it.  I miss his droopy sad ears when he watched us eat dinner.  I miss him curling up on my yoga mat while I was using it.  I miss his 70 pounds of snuggle crushing my sternum when he'd lay on top of me.


I'm glad he didn't really suffer.  I'm glad I got to say goodnight to him.  And I'm glad he got to go on one last walk that morning.


Most of all, I'm glad I brought home the big jerk when I'm sure few other people would have been willing to do the same.  I'm glad I took a gamble on him, and gave him the home he probably never had before, even if it was only for a short time, and even if he ultimately broke my heart in the process.

I wouldn't change a thing.


12 comments:

  1. Thank you for loving and caring for the jerk. I'm so very sorry for your loss. He obviously holds a very special place in your heart.

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  2. I'm so sorry. This is heart-breaking and I cannot imagine losing our newly adopted Stray Rescue pup. Peace.

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  3. This mad me cry..my Shepherd got sick in a similar way 2 months ago except that I brought him home and he died overnight at home where he was loved. Buried him in the back yard. His fotos still make me cry.

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  4. I adopted a dog from Stray Rescue in 2011 that not only looks identical to your jerk but has that very same personality. I would bet money he was her puppy. It took a while for me to understand her but now I couldn't possibly love her more. We are all better for having a jerk in our lives every now and then.

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  5. Thank you for fostering him. How lucky you were to know each other!

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  6. I'm so sorry. I lost my Wren 11/25/13 and it still hurts. I wasn't even looking for a dog when I got her in 2010, but I got my 10 yr. old girl after seeing her picture from someone who was giving her away. She had a few issues when I got her, but she came in and became my best bud right away. I knew God meant her for me when I found out we shared the same birthday--the Lord does indeed work in mysterious ways. I know my little angel is still watching over me, and I'm sure your "jerk" is watching over you.

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  7. I too am a Foster. My first Foster came and never left. I love him more than I would ever have believed. I didn't even think I was a true dog person! I truly believe it is a calling. You loved this dog in a way no one else could do. I will bet when you looked into each other's eyes you knew that you were connected. It is unexplainable until it happens to you. I hope you keep fostering. You are what we need in this world of dog abuse and neglect. You are very important.

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  8. I too am a Foster. My first Foster came and never left. I love him more than I would ever have believed. I didn't even think I was a true dog person! I truly believe it is a calling. You loved this dog in a way no one else could do. I will bet when you looked into each other's eyes you knew that you were connected. It is unexplainable until it happens to you. I hope you keep fostering. You are what we need in this world of dog abuse and neglect. You are very important.

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  9. They somehow get in your heart and stay with you forever. I didn't want my dog when we got him. We saved him because he was reported to have bitten someone. That was 7 years ago. I love that dog, and there is no way he ever bit anyone. He is 11 now. He is in seemingly good health, just aging gracefully. I never want him to die, and when that day comes it will be beyond horrible. No words. Thanks for sharing your story!

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  10. Sometimes when you gamble you win, not just money, but funny or maybe not so funny memories, you learn to look on the inside of those around you and not judge by the outside, you learn what love is and know that sometimes it's not fun, it's work, and lots of it, sometimes it's having to put something ahead of something else, but when it all comes down to, would any of us change it? Probably not! RIP he was able to love you and him despite of it all! Forever in your heart!

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